So we've been talking about things that need to "move" us. Things that we need to wake up to, and not just "cruise" along with. Another word we could use would be intentional. Deliberate. Purposeful. The first thing we spoke about was our approach to God. We have to be intentional in our approach to God. If you missed the first post, you can find it here.
The other thing I've found is that I need to be intentional about building my relationship with Janie. For those who don't know, Janie is my amazing wife with whom I've been privileged to spend the last 9 years of my life with.
And yet when it comes to marriage, (possibly the most challenging and most rewarding task we can have in life) we can be content to just cruise through life, and not work on our marriage. What a waste! Marriage gets a bad rap in the world, and there is a real attitude of "just get out" if it gets too hard. But if we become intentional about improving and building our marriage, it can be an amazing experience, with someone you can trust, confide in, and ultimately build an amazing life with. A healthy marriage is an incredible accomplishment, but it will never come unless you're intentional about having it.
But what does that look like in real life? Allow me to share what I do.
First of all, I've got a very busy life. I pastor HopeDivine Pentecostal Church. That alone takes a whole lot of time. But I also work a full-time job during the day. I'm also looking to get the Personal Leadership Acadamy off the ground (p.s. go like my Facebook page, please!). So it is fair to say that I don't have much time. Which means I need to be intentional about making time for Janie. Thursday night is our off night. I don't do any church work, I don't go visit any church members, I don't schedule Bible Studies. I don't do any work on the Leadership Acadamy, and I don't do any work emails. I spend the evening with Janie. Most Saturdays, we also go out and have breakfast as a family. I have to be intentional with my time.
So get to reading. Books like "The 5 Love Languages" and "His Needs, Her Needs" by Willard F. Harley are great books to read. Books about improving your communication skills are great as well. If you spend time in the car, then a great podcast I can recommend is Smalley Marriage Radio, with Michael Smalley & Seth Johnson. Every time I listen to a new episode, I learn something. You can check out their website right here.
And get to studying your spouse. You do this by investing time in them, communicating with them, and most importantly, listening to them. When I listen to Janie, I learn the most about her. Finally, don't be afraid to reach out for help with your marriage. It's absolutely worth it.
There is so much more I could share, but for now, I would love to hear from you! What things have you done in your marriage to help make it strong and successful?
Finally, stay tuned for part 3! Don't miss it by subscribing here.
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